A lot of people have been asking me how I am feeling about the whole process. And my answer would always be a single word reply “Good.. (accompanied with my standard classic smile).
“Are you happy” … “Yes”
“Are you tensed” … “No”
“Excited? Nervous?” … “Sort of.. not really”
But to be fair to everyone who are curious and to record my own emotions at this point of life, I feel obliged to elaborate on the whole experience. Probably, if not for this blog, I might have not even been considered to be a suitable partner by Gokul. So here is another sentiment prodding me to post about my experience.
The first comforting factor is that my parents just cannot stop talking about how understanding and open minded they are. To the point of saying, “even we would not be as understanding as they are”. This is now my dad’s standard dialogue after every phone call with Gokul’s parents, “Priyanka, you are so lucky. They are such wonderful people”.
When I look back as to how it started, it was hardly 2 months ago. The very fact that being apprehensive of an arranged marriage, and now being happily engaged should say it all. :-) And the whole process feel normal, just like it is meant to happen. Hence the lack of anxiety (to be precise.. Lack of visible excietment)
And the more I get to know them, the more I get the feeling of “meant to happen” which makes me feel taken care of.
I always dreamt that my future husband should be an animal
lover. But turns out that Gokul is scared of dogs. Yet knowing my love for
animals, has agreed to have a pet doggy for my sake. And help him overcome his
fear of animals. This is even better than a plain animal lover in my opinion.
:D
This is just one of the minor details which I can expound upon.He is the kind of a guy who sees me as I am, tries his best to understand me and accept me wholeheartedly. He probably knows more about me than I do about him.
This is just one of the minor details which I can expound upon.He is the kind of a guy who sees me as I am, tries his best to understand me and accept me wholeheartedly. He probably knows more about me than I do about him.
And maybe it breaks his heart when he feels that I am not
curious to know him too. But I do know one thing about him for sure...I know that he is the guy for me. And when we have the rest
of our life ahead, small stories and incidents can always wait right? ;-)
I look at Gokul’s mother and the care and patience she took
in preparing and personalizing all the decorative items for the engagement.
Attention lies in the details, and every single detail just spoke about her
enthusiasm and care for us. I was mentally prepared to hear some advice on how I
need to start learning some household work for the future, but not a single word was ever mentioned. In fact, she consoled me saying that even her daughter
picked up cooking after marriage, so I need not worry. And that I can have a cook to
manage the juggle between office and home. I was on cloud 9. :-D This
makes me feel relaxed. When I take the step to improve my culinary skills, it
will now be through interest rather than the pressure.
I see Gokul’s dad. And the open mind he had when my grandpa was not well was touching. Absolutely no pressure. He was so calm and supportive to make things easier for my parents during the tough moment.
Gokul’s sister, who is very sweet and kind hearted. She seems to be the kind of a person who sees her happiness in other people’s happiness.
With such a wonderful family, why would I worry about anything?
This is not to say that I never had my moments of anxiety right before the engagement. :-D It is funny how sometimes we take friends for granted, and never realize that just having them nearby can make such a big difference.
I don’t think the day would have been smooth without them.
Mahalakshmis’, Malathi, Vaidhi, Sowmi, Satya, Sudha and all the others… Without
your physical presence near me and the immense help which you all did for us, I
would have definitely freaked out more than once. ;-D
You guys being there was a major reason to keep me happy and smiling.
I know it doesn’t make sense to thank parents, but I am extremely grateful to them for making things so easy for me. They were always with me, supporting me at every step and where I am at this point is because of their guidance, encouragement and love.
Thanks to Sajan for being there and taking the time-off from becoming the dhrupad super singer just for me. He lightens the whole atmosphere and make people feel sane by trying to drive them insane! :-P
Finally, another reason why I feel normal about it… I know for certain that He is looking after me. Thanks Guruji, I feel extremely blessed
